I was lying on the floor again.

It was the end of the month, and I felt like I wasted it.

“I didn’t do anything.”

The familiar weight of shame weighed me down,

Making it harder to get on with my day.

But these 3 realizations changed my entire mindset…

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Realization #3: reflections vibe checked me

I skipped my weekly reflections the entire month of May.

When I went back and filled them in, I was shocked:

I had way more wins than losses.

But I discounted all my wins and only focused on my losses.

No wonder I felt so discouraged.

After looking through my completed reflections,

(Instead of avoiding them),

I felt a lot more excited for the next month.

Realization #2: all-or-nothing thinking

My therapist vibe checked me.

“Jen, there’s no way you got nothing done all month.

What’s a more accurate way to describe your reality?”

When she put it that way,

I realized my dramatic thoughts had taken over,

Impacting my mood, energy, and momentum.

I was keeping myself down like an enemy,

Instead of talking to myself like a friend.

When I thought “I tried my best this month, learned from my failures, and will improve for the next month,”

I felt more excited, ready to take action.

Realization #1: lean into my natural curiosity

Imagine you said “I feel like I wasted my month” to 2 people.

Person 1: “You’re lazy and keep procrastinating. You’re such a failure, if you stayed consistent you would’ve been successful by now.”

Person 2: “You tried your best, you shouldn’t be expected to perform at 100% all the time. Next month, let’s plan with intention and see what happens.”

How do you feel after talking to each person?

I talked to myself like person 1…

(Which is why I was on the floor lol.)

But after my reflections, I automatically talked to myself like person 2.

Because when I saw reality a bit clearer,

It changed my thinking.

I became more curious,

Treating my life like a game.

I was excited to stay consistent til the end.

What about you?

What’s a way you can be more gentle - and accurate - with your thinking?

Til next Monday,

Jennifer