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The weird comments I get.

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“Don’t these comments bother you?”

I get this question a lot -

Especially from people who want to be like me (create content full-time, travel, make Notion templates, etc.).

And here’s a lowkey shameful secret…

These comments used to bother me.

A lot.

I spent hours typing up replies, trying to explain to the other person…

“I’m not a bad person!! Let me explain what I mean 😭”

And this happened across every area of my life

(Classic people pleaser trait).

When someone asked me to do something I didn’t really want to do,

I’d scramble to make them happy,

Putting their needs over mine.

(Even if it secretly made me resentful.)

I wasn’t happy with my life back then,

Because I was living for other people. Not myself.

I told myself I needed to be useful to others just to earn their love.

But that’s not a great way to live, because I couldn’t control what others think about me.

And this text from my friend

Is what made me realize I needed to change things…

My friend refused to call me

The other day, I texted my friend to call.

He said no - at least not right then:

When I read this, I was SHOCKED FOR MY LIFE.

Not because I felt insulted he didn’t want to call.

But because I realized how completely valid his reason was.

I wondered:

How many times had I felt pressured to do something,

Because I invalidated myself before responding to someone?

How many times had I felt pressured to come up with a “more valid reason” to not do something,

When “I don’t want to” would’ve been enough?

That’s how I realized:

I don’t need to “prove” my “goodness” to random people commenting on my posts…

Because I already know I am enough.

Feeling secure in myself and learning how to validate myself

Is how I become more resilient + live a happier life.

What about you?

What’s a way you can talk to yourself more kindly today, instead of criticizing yourself?

Til next Monday,

Jennifer

P.S. for the astrology girlies…right after I wrote this I looked at my chart and it said my Chiron in 2nd house in Sag = “wounds around value or survival — perhaps feeling like you're only valuable when producing.” 😩